Stop wasting your words and energy on people who have not earned or deserve a place in your life anymore. The lesson has been met. They’ve served their purpose, now release them. Life-long relationships are a true privilege.
Life is precious and so is your time. You can not make people see the light of day or see your worth; you can no change people or chase them down. You can not save people from their own troubles, and you definitely can not make someone love or respect you or want to be a part of your life. You can’t control someone, and you can’t control how they react to you or have treated you, but you can, however, control how you react to them.
One of my biggest and most rewarding, life-changing methods to that response has been this, “Read my lips….” That’s right, nothing. People in my life were always so use to me lecturing them, telling them the truth, making them see the light of day, or what a good friend or asset I was to them, why weren’t they to me… blah, blah, blah. Pointless. Powerless. Changes nothing. But the biggest statement of all — the one that speaks louder than any of it… silence. That’s right. Because the ones who are worth fighting for, are the ones you will make time and noise for. The ones who have lost their seat at your table, are the ones who have shown you time and time again who they really are. One way to know is, you just don’t like what you see or how they make you feel. Trust me, they’ll show you again. For those people? The best response is only one response. Silence. Period. Don’t even waste your precious time. Save it for those who matter. If they haven’t earned a spot for you in those two MOST needed times in your life (BEST & WORST), they definitely haven’t earned it back from you, that’s for sure. I’ve always said, “Don’t worry when I argue with you, worry when I stop. Because, that means there nothing left to fight for.”
This can also be applied to anyone or any situation that deflates your energy or that’s toxic. Maybe it’s someone you work with or even gossipers or haters. Those people are only projecting their own insecurities onto you, or are jealous or envious. The best response? None. Move on. They’re not worth your time. And truth be told, if they’re wasting their precious energy talking about or hating on you, they don’t have anything interesting enough going on in their own life; let it be their problem, because it is. Plus, it only means… you must be doing something right.
The beautiful part about it all, is when you truly recognize your value — your worth — you don’t see it as your loss, but feel sorry for them for theirs. Keep smiling, keep quiet, but just keep moving forward. They have no power over you unless you allow it. Remember… “How people treat you is their karma, how you react to it is yours.”
Shh! Listen to that. Ahh! Peaceful quiet. No drama. No energy wasted. Now you have it for more important people and things in your life.