Birthday Blog (#Thisis45) — GLOWING UP

Birthday Note

“Glowing UP”

#Thisis45 ((9.24))

Every year for my birthday, I like to take a moment to reflect on the last year. I like to write a blog for my birthday, regarding how I feel where I am in my life. Currently, I am in a place of triumph, moving on, and what I like to call, “glowing UP”!

This last year, I have been handed some pretty challenging situations — without stating what they are specifically — I do not like to beat to the drum of problems, and I do not like to play victim to my circumstances. We all have difficult circumstances in our lives to learn from. Although these certain situations could have torn me down, I instead have grown from them significantly! Like the phoenix, I feel I have risen from the ashes! I am not dismissing the hardships that I have been through. However, I have chosen to feel them, learn from them, heal from them, move on from them, and “glow up” from them!!!

I am coming into a completely new chapter of my life, whereas I am divulging within and serving my heart, soul, and needs — first and foremost! Of course, I am a mother, so the needs and care of my family are of the upmost priority and importance! What I’m saying is that although I am centered around always taking care of them, it doesn’t mean that I neglect my own. In other words, I have come to the conclusion, that through trying to not lose other people, and taking care of everyone else’s needs, you lose yourself in the process. I have learned that it doesn’t matter sometimes how much you give of yourself to certain people. Sometimes, they still let you down and break your heart. They still expect certain things from you. Sometimes no matter how much you do for them, it still may never be enough. The difference is now I know that that has nothing to do with me, and it has everything to do with them. I am just an innocent bystander who is in the crossfire of their projection. It is nothing I did. Because I did everything I could for them. So, how could it be? The punishment doesn’t always fit the crime. You can be a an incredible person, and still be mistreated. I know who I am in my heart and all the wonderful blessings and abundance that I have to shower onto others that I have relationships with in my life, and that is good enough! If they don’t see it, then it is their problem. I know longer waste my energy on trying to make them see what I offer or bring to the table. I simply move on, let go, and give it to God! I would rather be at peace then be right or make them see the light! I have my own journey to live and they have theirs. My journey is going to look the way I want it to look, and it does not matter if anyone agrees with it, if it makes them happy, or it brings some grief, because at the end of the day, it is my life to live. Those who truly love me and see my value, will see it without me having to push that insight onto them. The relationship will just flow effortlessly. I am not saying that relationships do not take work. They all take work! What I’m saying is, is that true relationships will stand the test of time of ups and downs without any expectations, and those individuals will be willing to stick around to work on it because you’re worth it to them. I will never force another to stay in my life! Ever. The beauty of my relationship with others will be in a blissful place ~ an even exchange of give and take, respecting where the other is in that stage of their life. It will not cast judgment. It will hold a place of respect, a safe space to exchange feelings and emotions, yet draw healthy boundaries. What has ended, or has filtered away, was meant to come to an ending. It or they was not meant for you any longer. It will no longer hold any negative space for me or serve me from this point forward. It lives in the past. I do not live in the past, nor live in the future. I choose to dwell in the present. The past has molded me, and the future brings me excitement and anticipation! It also gives me continuous inspiration to keep dreaming, live with passion, and aim to live my best life! But that’s as far as it should go. Otherwise, you miss the NOW moments! That is the best that I have in my ability within myself, and that should be enough… not only for others, but more importantly, for myself.

Everyone has something significant to contribute and everyone’s life matters! It’s finding that within yourself and relationships with others who mirror that back to you. Life is short and precious. I know that from losing a best friend and a sister young in my life! We’re not meant to constantly struggle. Struggle comes with the journey as being human, but it’s not meant to be the dominant force in our lives. Let go of the anger, grief, resentment, etc… that poison just eats you alive. Accept what is — among others and on our planet. Who’s to say they or it isn’t exactly where it should be anyway? Love, joy, passion, creating, manifesting, laughter, etc… is meant to be why we are here. If we aren’t in a place where those things aren’t driving us, then we’re not in the right place. It’s up to us to change it. No one else. Don’t waste another minute accepting that there isn’t more your’e entitled to, for you are entitled to very good situations and people in your life! Period. There is always more out there that can help us expand happiness! My mantra now is, “Don’t settle for less than what you deserve!”

I’m “glowing UP” — HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!!

Every challenging situation makes you stronger, that’s why they happen to us in the first place. Remember: “At the end of the storm, there is the rainbow.”

#makethatwish #surrenderthehow #miracleshappeneveryday #nevergiveup #happybirthdaygirl #libraseason #newbeginnings #glowingup

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A Soulmate💞

A Soulmate💞

What is a soulmate, one may ask? Well, most of us know. I see that word being thrown around and used lightly. A soulmate typically refers to a “romantic” partner but it doesn’t have to be. It can be a friend or family member as well. In my opinion, it’s a long-standing relationship where you feel a special connection like a “soul-connection” or this nagging like you’ve known the person your whole life or even in a past one.

However, there’s still lust or “love of your life” and it doesn’t necessarily mean it is. There’s also a misconception that a soulmate relationship is easy. They’re NOT!!! They are actually our most challenging, because they’re typically meant to show us big lessons and substance. They’re not the surfaced relationships that come in and out just to teach us something, or just for the fun, although they can be. But really, a true soulmate or soul connection is a lifer! A “ride or die”, some may even say.

How you know, how you really know when you’ve got yourself a “soulmate”? They don’t just love you when life is easy! They don’t just tell you what you want to hear just to appease you, they don’t buy your love, love bomb you, take you all around the world, etc… and then that qualifies ~ where it’s always fun and fantastical, hot, heavy and passionate! In the beginning, sure! Yes. It’s called the “honeymoon phase” for a reason. I’m not saying there’s not this undeniable, electric connection! There usually is. What I’m saying is that a soulmate shows doesn’t just tell. They show up everyday for you even when they don’t always want to or have it within themselves, because they put you first. They fight for you until the end, no matter what. Even when they don’t agree. They love you on your ugliest days. They don’t just love the best parts of you, they love ALL of you, even the parts they detest. They don’t just love you on the weekends when it’s fun and easier! They love you on Mondays when it’s mundane or mediocre, boring or hard! They don’t judge you. They try and understand you. Mainly, they never ever give up on you!

So, if you wanna know if someone in your life is a “soulmate” ~ see if they’re still there for the long haul! If they’ve loved you on your darkest days! If they love you when you asked them to or needed them to, and didn’t ever tell you, “I can’t be what you need me to be!” Because true lifers, soulmates, don’t make it about themselves. Maybe some days you can’t be what someone wants or needs you to be. Sometimes you even dislike them, but you never give up on them. Soulmates don’t give up on their soulmate. Ever.

A true soulmate is always adjusting themselves to compromise for you so they always have you in their life, because they can’t live without you in it. If they can, they’re not your soulmate. That’s okay if they’re not, not everyone is, but don’t give them that title unless they’ve truly earned it! You’ll know when it’s the real deal. It will never even be questioned. It won’t be easy, but it’ll (they) will be worth it. You don’t have to prove it to the rest of the world or push it down their throats. The proof is in the pudding! You also don’t have to tattoo them on your body for them to stick. Typically if these components are in the equation, they’re not the real deal! Everyday when you wake up and roll outta bed, they’ll be there in your life without question.

That’s a soulmate! Tread lightly with that term because lust is not love. Conveniency, control, and conditions aren’t love either. Neither is saying how much you love someone. I used to have someone always say, “I love you more,” after every, “I love you.” That person gave up on us. That proves nothing! Maybe they don’t even say it enough, but they show up everyday to show you. Lastly, they would never ask you to give up who you truly are for them. I’m not saying healthy boundaries or change isn’t necessary in growth during any relationship, but they don’t ask you to be someone you’re not. They don’t ask you to give up things and people you love. They should be loyal to a fault. You never have to question their character, heart, integrity, etc… a soulmate has got your back, and they will never stab you in it when you turn around. They are the ones protecting you, giving you sense of security, and when people are speaking badly of you when you’re not in the room, they’re there to stick up for you. They are always there rooting you on, even on their weakest days. They will give whatever they have up for you; they will go the distance.

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Book Signing at Barnes and Noble!

Barnes & Noble
The Shops at Pembroke Gardens in Pembroke Pines, FL
On 8/8/24 from 2–4PM

For Book Launch and book-signings of the Rainbow Crystal series!

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Wanting to get married in the state of Florida?

Wanting to get married in the state of Florida?
Samantha is now a registered ordained minister through the “American Marriage Ministries” and can officiate your wedding for you. Contact her for more details.
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Betrayal

Betrayal 

2024 and the Solar Eclipse on April 8, 2024 is bringing out people’s true colors and paying back karmic debts! Let the truth set you free! Situations and relationships end in order for new chapters and ones to begin. The snake is shedding its skin. Look out for the wolf in sheep’s clothing and those who have your back. “It’s hard to tell who has your back, from who has it long enough just to stab you in it.”

“Beware the person who stabs you and then tells the world they’re the one who’s bleeding.”

These are the characters who will be revealing themselves. And for those who have already been there, you know the pain all too well. Right? It doesn’t feel fair. Sometimes, we give our hearts to people, we’re vulnerable, honest, real, and good to them, and we still get burned. We may be used, abandoned, ghosted, etc… They steal our pure energies or even emotionally or physically rob from us. However it ends, it still ends. Whatever the betrayal looks like, it’s still betrayal. We may feel the need to even take revenge, but don’t. Instead, take the high road. And I’ll tell you why…

There is no need to seek vengeance. Karma will take care of that on its own. The victimizer will become the victim. The backstabber will become the backstabbed. Life has a way of doing onto them what they have done onto others. You live by the sword, you die by the sword.

It may not be done by you, but another will do exactly the same to them, or a situation will occur where they will pay their karmic debts.

So, sit back my good-hearted ones! Grab a bag of popcorn or a glass of wine, and watch with a sly smile on your face as the movie (of revenge) plays out! Trust that you will watch the enemy unravel before your eyes. It will not only be fair and just, but better than anything you could’ve planned for them with your own plan. Let the universe do its karmic work. It’s not that we want to see them hurt necessarily, but to say that we just want them to feel exactly the pain that they caused onto us. Not because we’re mean, but because we are human. And to do that? It’s not through words. It’s only through actions. Show don’t tell.

It won’t take away the pain that they cast on you. It won’t even erase the good memories you shared with them up until the point of betrayal, and that’s okay. You want to hold onto the good memories. It molded you into who you are today. Also, you will gain. What? You may ask. What will I gain? Self-worth. Value for what you bring to the table. Boundaries. Trusting more in yourself. Growth. Evolving. And a brand new chapter. In order to begin to walk through that door of all new opportunities, experiences, and relationships, you must let go of those who no longer serve you. Let it be! Let it be a lesson learned. Not only for you, but for them. Because when they feel your absence, they will live with regret, the guilt and shame of knowing they hurt and let go of one of the good ones, and they can never have another YOU again. We, on the other hand, will not only have had the trash take itself out, but we will only gain those who are better for us and who will only lift us up higher. It will raise your frequency! They will match your vibration, and together you will meet in alignment. They will appreciate your existence. They will let you know it everyday, and you will have a delicious everlasting bond that couldn’t have been there in your light due to the shadows that were casting you in their darkness.

So again, let it be! Let it go. And you will see that there will always be an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.

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